The very thought of arranged marriage is something which I have often dreaded since my college times. Indian customs (especially of the south) are so much in favor of them, that they seldom see this Social Business transaction as a medium of trading girls. The to-be couples are not weighed for any of their inner traits but their status, caste, education, Good –conduct (labeled by the society) and assets. With the majority Hindu’s, it also strongly boils down to their unseen astral match. Crowds flood over to matrimonial bureaus in a desperate want to surrender their lives to a stranger (who of course meets the hunter’s minimum eligible criteria). After several rejections and considerations the seeker accepts a mate who will serve the greater good of his/her family and society.
The whole workflow seems to me, as if it were more like a “Rule Book” for the society by their hypocritical members. WE DON’T CHOOSE the feelings while building Relationships, especially of that of a soul mate. The feelings choose us and we are constantly moving in position with our true desires and purpose.
Most of my friends who have an arranged marriage indeed are staying together than against those separated couples who tied a knot in Love. But a question arises if these arranged couples are holding themselves together for sake their society that glued them. Remember, I live community where society comments outweighs ones own personal happiness or individuality. Carrying their monotonous life, I see no love or romance fuelling their marriage. Lacking essence they robotically invest time in saving a relationship that is neither happy nor soul-filling. It's better for anyone to live alone than to serve someone lifetime without love.
To appropriately summarize “Love cannot be Made; Love just happens”
Statutory warning: You live only once. Don’t let an unworthy unreceptive person get to have/share the special YOU.
The whole workflow seems to me, as if it were more like a “Rule Book” for the society by their hypocritical members. WE DON’T CHOOSE the feelings while building Relationships, especially of that of a soul mate. The feelings choose us and we are constantly moving in position with our true desires and purpose.
Most of my friends who have an arranged marriage indeed are staying together than against those separated couples who tied a knot in Love. But a question arises if these arranged couples are holding themselves together for sake their society that glued them. Remember, I live community where society comments outweighs ones own personal happiness or individuality. Carrying their monotonous life, I see no love or romance fuelling their marriage. Lacking essence they robotically invest time in saving a relationship that is neither happy nor soul-filling. It's better for anyone to live alone than to serve someone lifetime without love.
To appropriately summarize “Love cannot be Made; Love just happens”
Statutory warning: You live only once. Don’t let an unworthy unreceptive person get to have/share the special YOU.
3 comments:
"MARRIAGE" without love is as artificial as those duplicate flowers that's sold on the streets, they look very beautiful and very attractive but lack the tenderness and sweetness as the natural flowers. I wish i could not come out of this artificial life that i am living but that would lead me to another bondage in life so i patiently wait for things to change:.)
The love we have with anyone, be it spouse, friend, parents, sibling, or anyone for tht matter, is 3 fold. With God in the center. You love God, u draw close to him and therby u love yr mate. Only His unfailing AGAPE love can fill all our desires, physical, spiritual and emotional. Else you cant forgive unconditionaly, neither can u overlook insults/disappointments/disagreements, or have the love mentioned in 1 Corin 13, all the time. The mate, should love u with God inbetween. God makes love complete.
ANY other love, wont last. Teens, and youth, 90% of the time, dont understand this and fall for feelings( how they feel with the opp sex), physical and emotional( happy, excited), and overlook the basics. That's y, the elders step in. But as you say the society being corrupt looks for so many conditions to get a marriage done. Huh!
The love before marriage or the love after matter marriage it doesnt matter... But what really matters is you should find or you shld be offered a worthy receptive person for yourself...
I wish you dont spend the rest of your life thinking of not meeting such a person before your marriage
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